We’ve had another snow which brings more quiet time; time for reading, baking, cooking, thinking, and most of all time for visiting blogs. To me, one of the great aspects of blogs, and especially those about gardening, is the opportunity to share ideas, techniques, great sources, plant varieties, and experiments. Gardeners are famous for their generosity. We are happy to pass along plants, knowledge, loan tools, give a helping hand, and share surplus harvests. We delight in giving an extra plant or a colorful bouquet to any visitor that gives the slightest word of praise to our efforts at growing. We go out of our way to help a beginner. I’m proud to be part of that gardening community, my gardening family…even if some of you live on the other side of the globe and we’ve never met face-to-face and aren’t likely to ever have that experience.
With that sense of sharing in mind, that quiet conversation through the keyboard, it disturbs me to see the growing trend in bloggers who fail to include a comment capability on their sites. I’m so disappointed to read an especially good post, only to find no comment box at the bottom for my praise. When I learn something new, I want to thank the author for sharing. And, it breaks my heart to read a post outlining a plan with a glaring error that I know through experience will lead to failure, but I have no way to gently warn them.
The missing comment option suggests the author does not want feedback of any kind, positive or negative. They want to preach, but not listen. Do they feel they know it all and do not need suggestions? It implies they do not want conversations with the gardening family.
Maybe I’m just old-fashioned, but to me a comment box at least indicates a willingness to discuss a topic, a politeness and civility that is becoming harder to find in everyday life. Sometimes, I may choose not to comment, but it’s lovely to know the author invites my response if I have one. Otherwise, it feels like the overbearing uncle that talks so loud at dinner, and has such strong opinions that he refuses to allow anyone else to express their views.
From now on, if there is no comment box symbol, it’s most likely I’ll just skip that post. I’d rather have a conversation than a lecture! Am I being too harsh? Does it bother you? Or do you view it another way?